Husbands

I have been reading a book called Love & Respect The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs.


It is a great book and has got me thinking about HOW to show respect to your husbands. I confess to a little googling!!

I also confess to nagging! But I am working on it with some tips that I found! Also there is a great article about the consequences of "small stuff" that can be found here.

Here are a few verses that have struck a chord with me:

"If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone" (Romans 12:18)
"So then, let's aim for harmony....and try to build each other up" (Romans 14:19 NLT)
"The little foxes are ruining our vineyard" Song of Solomon 2:15


I have found a list of 10 Steps Towards Respecting Your Husband

1. Pray for him daily and trust God to answer your requests.

* Pray for his well-being, wisdom, protection, blessings, guidance, knowledge, spiritual maturity, success, purity, strength in temptation, etc.
* Look for God’s answers to your prayers.
* Thank God for working in your family.
* Thank God for your husband.
* Pray for your attitude.

2. Remember that God has put your husband in a position of leadership, and He will lead you through your husband.
3. Make a list of your husband’s qualities that you appreciate. Review and add to your list regularly.
4. Tell your husband what you appreciate about him. Tell others what you appreciate about him.
5. Don’t criticize your husband to others – especially your children.
6. Look for the positive side of things that you may find irritating. If you find it boring when he spends time telling you about his bad day, remember that at least he is talking to you, spending time with you, sharing his concerns with you, bringing you into his confidence, and giving you the chance to be an encourager and helper.
7. Respond to his loving advances with enthusiasm.
8. If you are concerned about a decision your husband has made, ask him the following:

* “I’m confused about _________. Can you explain it to me?”
* “Can we talk about _____? I feel uncomfortable about ______.”

Don’t ask: “WHY in the world would you do it that way?” or ask “Why?” in any way that implies you think he is foolish.

9. If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about your husband, stop and choose to think of something else – especially things from your positive quality list.
10. Respect his likes and dislikes. If he likes a particular food, make a point of serving that regularly. If he hates the color purple, don’t wear purple in his presence. If he likes you to wear perfume, do it.

There is even a list of 12 things you should not do to your husband!

So what do you do to show respect to your husband? What verses motivate you? Would love to hear your responses!